How did your life change when you became a caregiver?

I thought we would have a normal life when my husband Tommy retired. We would both have 9-to-5 jobs and be able to attend our kids' school functions together. Around the time I began acting as his caregiver, I had just finished getting a certification as a medical assistant and, in 2018, got a full-time job at an immigrant shelter that housed unaccompanied minors. I worked in the medical department screening minors, giving medication, and setting them up for doctor visits. However, in August of 2019, I resigned from my job to take care of Tommy full-time. He was not doing well, and his mental health was declining due to his traumatic brain injury and PTSD.  

What is your biggest challenge as a caregiver?

I think the biggest challenge for me as a caregiver is finding local support for myself and my kids. It becomes hard when you do not have friends who understand what you and your family are going through. The civilian world is harder than being surrounded by the military community. Fortunately, I found support online.  

Tell us who you are outside of your role as a caregiver?

I am currently attending Colorado Technical University. In 2023, I received the Patriot Scholarship as a caregiver. I will graduate this June with my bachelor’s degree in criminal justice with a concentration in human services. I also volunteer at my daughter’s elementary school as a parent volunteer.